Mommie Dearest: Mother Arrested For Leaving 9-Year-Old At The Park While She Went To Work

Incase you checked my older writings, I feel that you all pretty much figure out what's my number one passion here and what I like to talk about. And as you happen to be on my page today reading my stuff, I'm hoping that you found out or will discover some helpful points about the theme of my web-site. For today, after a good period of time ponying up on the internet reading about free webcam girls I made a decision that I want to share my points and conclusions with everyone. Stick with me, although I am not absolutely confident where to begin...

Another day, another mother arrested for trying to have it all. And by “have it all,” I mean struggling to figure out child care with little support while maintaining a minimum wage food-service industry job.

A 46-year-old Black mother from South Carolina was jailed for letting her nine-year old daughter play at the park unsupervised while she went to work. Let’s look at the facts, as detailed by Free Range Kids’ Lenore Skenazy:

Debra Harrell works at a McDonald’s in North Augusta, South Carolina.

Her nine-year-old daughter had been accompanying her to work for most of the summer, bringing along a laptop and using McD’s free wifi to keep her busy while Harrell worked her shift.

Harrell’s home was recently robbed and the laptop was stolen, causing her daughter to request being dropped off at a local park.

Harrell’s daughter was given a cell phone to call her in case she needed anything.

On her third day at the park by herself, a stranger questioned Harrell’s daughter  about her mother’s whereabouts, called the police, and subsequently, Harrell was arrested on abandonment charges.

I can’t imagine being in Harrell’s position where options are incredibly limited regarding child care and I have no idea what I would have done had I been in her shoes. I’m thankful that I have both a network of friends, babysitters, grandparents and camps that I can turn to and afford to take over once school is out. But for many working parents, summers can be incredibly difficult, especially when faced with rising child care costs. Harrell’s job at McDonald’s was most likely not enough to provide for full day camp or care, leaving her with little choice. Yet, the response — both from fellow parents at the park and from police, was to jail Harrell — which most likely will result in her losing her job.

Was Harrell’s daughter in real danger from being at a popular park by herself? Most likely not. Those who cry out about child abductions may not realize that children are more likely to be kidnapped by people they know than complete strangers. The nine-year-old had a phone to use in case she needed to reach her mother, and she had made it through two days of park play without any issue. This doesn’t really sounds like child endangerment. The real risk of child endangerment comes from Harrell being jailed and her daughter having to live through that trauma — especially if it ends with her being sent into an overburdened foster care system.

Here’s what I’m seeing: a mom trying to do the best that she can. She assessed the situation and made the best choice given her circumstances. Was it ideal? No. But what was she supposed to do? Not go to work? There’s no winning here. But, instead of coming up with ways we can prevent situations like these — raising the minimum wage, offering more affordable quality child care options — those who need the help get piled on and things are made worse. We’ve gotten to a point where we’re criminalizing parenting. Instead of providing tools for success, society has decided the best way to get involved is to make various acts of desperation criminal, because that’s more likely to help the situation. Spoiler alert: it doesn’). Just look back to the homeless mother who was arrested for leaving her kids in the car for a job interview.

There are actual real cases of child neglect and abuse out there. I would much rather see the strained resources available going to fight those cases and saving those children in true need. Harrell’s daughter was not one of them. She was just a child unsupervised time at a park — which, thinking back to my nine-year-old self — sounds kind of awesome. If anything, the real crime here was the fact that a mother of color was working the best job she could most likely find which did not provide enough to put her daughter in quality care while she worked.

[The Atlantic]

[Pew Research Center: Rising Costs Of Childcare]


Avital Norman Nathman blogs at The Mamafesto. Her book, The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood To Fit Reality, is out now. Follow her on Twitter.

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Millions of people have successfully learned how to use a cell phone, especially in the past decade. Yet many of these same people seem to forget to use some common-sense manners when it comes to using their cell phones. So, let's talk about cell phone etiquette. Probably the worst offense that cell phone users commit, is to answer a call when they're standing right by you.

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In most cases, you will be given a telephone number...or will be able to select the number you want from your carrier service. Personally, I don't mind it much if the person answers the call, chats for a minute, then hangs up. You can thank the Internet for that. Likewise, if you have a power outage your phone won't work.

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Ma'at Family Doing the D-Low Shuffle For Their 90 year old Great Grandma


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Bringing a little entertainment to Great Grandma on Easter Sunday. For the most part she just stared at the kids....and cracked an occasional smile. She's 90 years old and she boogied with us in her own way : )

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Breakup Excuses: We're Not Compatible


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Survey Finds More Women Taking Charge of DIY Around the House

Survey Finds More Women Taking Charge of DIY Around the HouseS

A new survey shows that more women are becoming "do-it-yourselfers," spending money and time fixing things around the house themselves--GASP--without the aid of a man.

The survey, conducted by WD Bathrooms, questioned 1,244 British women about their DIY habits. There are lots of women are becoming homeowners these days, so of course it makes sense they're taking in an interest in home improvement. According to the Daily Mail, women are taking a bigger role in home improvement projects for a variety of reasons:

Some 60 per cent of women in the UK say they are now more likely to carry out home improvements than their partners and half consider themselves handier than men, too.The news comes as more women than ever are homeowners - single women now account for more than one in five UK households. This perhaps explains why 66 per cent of those questioned said that the materials like paint, plaster and plywood are paid for from their personal bank accounts.


The most common answer among women when asked why they had taken up DIY was that, 'it was the only way to get anything done.' While four in ten women said they wanted wanted to stop asking their brothers, fathers and male friends for assistance, ten per cent said they took up DIY to increase the value of their home, inspired by TV home improvement programmes.

According to the Daily Mail, these are the top ten tasks now undertaken by women:

Changing light bulbs
Changing fuses
Fixing a leaky tap
Fixing the toilet
Replacing doorknob
Patching hole in the wall
Hanging wallpaper
Sealing windows
Hanging Pictures
If we're calling "changing a light bulb" a DIY task, then I get to count the Lean Cuisine I threw in the microwave for dinner tonight as a gourmet cooking. Most of the things on that list are pretty easy as well ("hanging pictures" should not be something you hire a contractor for, folks).

OK, so this is a survey reported in the Daily Mail. We all know their idea of a scientifically accurate survey or study is a guy wearing a blindfold throwing darts at words on a wall and calling them "findings." But I'm sure there's some anecdotal value here that's worthy of a discussion. I spend more time at Home Depot and Lowe's than I do at any clothing or home decor store. I call the Lowe's by my house my "happy place." Sometimes I go in there just to peruse their new backsplash tiles, day dreaming about the day when I will finally do my very own gut rehab of a kitchen. The guy who runs the paint section knows me by name and I am so proud of that fact.

I didn't get into DIY because I didn't marry Bob Vila (that will always be the dream, Bob. Always). I did it because it is really, really cool. There's nothing quite like the feeling of not having to wait around for a repairman and pay a bunch of money to fix something. Plus thanks to the Internet, you can find really good step-by-step "how to"s on pretty much anything.

(Seriously if you guys ever have leaky toilet trouble, hit me up. I have MacGyvered a lot of wonky toilets in my day.)

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G by GUESS presents Style Rocks with Cobra Starship, Episode 1


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G by Guess presents Style Rocks, watch three teams vie for the chance to hang with Cobra Starship! First, they're put to the test to prove that they can look and perform like true rockstars! Who will prove that their "style rocks"?..Cobra Starship will decide.

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Could a man's dog reveal his hidden personality traits?

Looking back on the last three guys I dated, I could have saved myself a lot of time and trouble by paying closer attention to their dogs.

When I first started dating Frank, he seemed like a really decent guy and he was a genius with a barbecue grill, so I gave him a shot. As I have had to learn to do with most of the men I've dated, I had to give his dog a chance too.

About this columnist:

You know how one minute you're in a happy and fulfilling marriage and the next you find out that your husband of 20 years has been cheating on you with someone 10 years younger? Well, I do. I went from country club wife and mother of high school students to a single, 39-year-old "cougar." In this weekly feature, I will share with you all the mind-boggling, head-scratching, is-this-someone's-idea-of-a-joke moments from my so-called single life. Consider this your private invitation to my tremendous learning curve...

I typically date tall men because I'm 5' 10" and I feel like the woman in Attack of the 50 Foot Woman if I date someone shorter than I am. A male friend told me I was being a snob and to give short guys a chance. Frank was short. And round. And bald. I figured that would shut my friend up.

Frank's dog, Magnum, was short and round also. He was really cute and very affectionate. I didn't have a hard time pretending I liked Magnum, as I had done with other guys' dogs.

As the months passed, I started to figure out that Frank had major Mommy issues. I had already breastfed two children and at this point in my life, was not in the mood to breastfeed another woman's 47-year-old child.

Frank got irritated with me once because I didn't say goodbye before I left, even though he was sound asleep. He probably wanted me to tuck him in, read him a book and sing him a lullaby before I left too.

Over time Frank revealed himself to be needy, clingy and in need of constant reassurance which became increasingly annoying.

While Frank was wearing thin on my nerves, my affection for Magnum started to wane too. I noticed that like Frank, Magnum was perfectly happy to lie around the house all day sleeping. Magnum was also neurotic (lazy and neurotic -- interesting combination, don't you think?). Magnum was so distraught when Frank left during the day that he would dig his way under the fence to escape and actually leapt through two screen windows to chase after Frank. One day when I got out of the shower and opened the bathroom door, I almost fell over Magnum who was staring at the door waiting for me to come out. It seemed Magnum had codependency issues as well.

In retrospect, I could have figured out Frank a lot faster if I had been paying closer attention to Magnum. I had another boyfriend who spoiled his dog (and his kids) rotten, and I had another boyfriend who treated his dog like a trophy in public but like crap behind closed doors (which is exactly how he treated me). Heed my advice ladies -- pay close attention to the personality trait of a guy's dog and then ask yourself where he may have picked those traits up.

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5 Functions a girl could actually use in a dating app

The new dating app BroApp has been causing a stir around the internet as of late, and for good reason. Described as the "clever relationship wingman," the app lets 'bros' compose a text or choose from pre-programmed texts (don't overexert yourself now, fellas), and then choose a time and a date for it to be sent to his lady.

While the app got some negative feedback, I can kinda see the draw. I dated a trader last year. Because of the manic pace of his job and the wild ups and downs, he couldn't afford to be on his phone most of the time. But if I got little check-ins throughout the day, hellos and thinking of yous, I would probably take the bait. He was thinking of me at the point of writing it, wasn't he?

Rumor has it, BroApp has been so well-received that "the masses" are requesting that a "SisterApp" be created. First of all, we have got to come up with a cooler name than SisterApp. LadyApp? ChickApp? Almost anything is better than SisterApp.

But what, pray tell, should our ChickApp do? Exactly the opposite of the BroApp.

Just as men traditionally struggle with under-communicating, I think women often struggle with over-communicating, especially now that texting is such an alluring, easy way to connect. Here are a few ways I would personally benefit from a ChickApp:


Photo credit: BroApp


ChickApp senses if a text to my boyfriend includes a photo of food, giving me a warning message of, "He doesn't care or need to know what you had for lunch, even if it looks yummy!"


After midnight, ChickApp requires a breathalyzer in order to text. If I try accessing it more than three times it automatically calls Uber for me.


If I've texted my guy and it's been under an hour without a response from my him, ChickApp won't let me text, "Um, HELLO?" and instead will send me a sweet quote about how patience is a virtue and demand that I go do something I love. Or, automatically dial my BFF.


Even further, if I exceed a preset number of messages in a set time frame to my guy, ChickApp will block his number with the warning, "I think you've said enough."


If the relationship is under six months, ChickApp will lock down all emojis that contain hearts.

BroApp, meet the wonderful world of ChickApp. Let us know when we can download it.

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How Do You Define True Love?

Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species.

But what is love, and how do we know when we're in it? First, let's start off with what love isn't.

What Is Love? It Definitely Isn't...
Manipulation. "If you loved me, then you would..." isn't love, but rather infatuation.

Compromising who you are. If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love. Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is in love with you will never ask you to change who you are in order to be loved.

Violent. Passions can definitely become inflamed with someone you love, but a relationship with physical or emotional violence isn't true love. (More: Dating Violence)

Just lust. Yes, chemistry and physical attraction are important, but true love also includes commitment, trust and respect. (More: Is It Lust... Or Love?, Test Your Chemistry)

So then, what exactly is love?

True Love Is...
True Love is Caring. The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.

True Love is Attractive. Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.

True Love is Attached. Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you," while your partner feels the same way.

True Love is Commited. When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly commited to one another will, when faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."

True Love is Intimate. Intimacy is a crucial component of all relationships, regardless of their nature. In order to know another, you need to share parts of yourself. This self-revealing behavior, when reciprocated, forms an emotional bond. Over time this bond strengthens and even evolves, so that two people merge closer and closer together. Intimacy by itself if is a great friendship, but compiled with the other things in this list, it forms an equation for true love.